The struggle to see the middle is exactly because you see everything as black and white. One thing is the same as another thing, even though the circumstances are entirely different. The cop in the Capitol shooting had no time to determine that it was an unarmed female - he just saw that she was the tip of the spear of a mob frothing at the mouth. It was his duty to protect the members of Congress and had every right to believe they had bad intentions. I know you know this.
Every situation has to be judged on it's own merits rather than comparing it to another - one shooting doesn't equal another just because they both involved guns. For instance, I can understand why the officer in the Ohio shooting shot the girl, because when you see the slowed down footage, she was a second away from slashing the other girl's throat with a six inch blade. I can make the case that it was justified. That doesn't mean all police shootings are justified. I can understand the dilemma of split second decisions but that's really not what we're talking about with many of the others we've seen over the last few years.
And as far as Lebron and Maxine Waters go, they were both wrong to say what they did. I can parse what qualifies as a justified killing and what doesn't. I know you can as well if you want to.
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I think we are saying the same thing, just in a different way.